How To Personalize Your Wedding Vows

Your special day is approaching and you are at the point of writing your vows. You have so many questions running through your mind such as, What do you say? How do you make your vows personal?

After some research I have come up with what I think to be the best ideas to aid you in writing loving, and specialized vows.

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1.   The first step when writing your vows is to sit down and think of questions that pertain to you and your future spouse. Writing down the answers will aid you in coming up with proper words to say when you are speaking your vows. A few examples of questions are as follows.

•    What qualities does your future spouse have that makes them so special to you?

•    When did you first know you were in love?

•    When did you first know they were the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?

•    Why do you want to spend the rest of your life with them?

•    What does Marriage mean to you?

•    What is your favorite memory about the two of you?

•    What made you laugh together?

•    What moments made you cry together?

•    Do you have any inside jokes?

•    Are there any moments that brought you closer together?

•    What future dreams do you have that include your spouse to be?

2.    Keeping your vows personal between the two of you will enhance your special day. With the answers to your questions written down you can now think of ways to combine them into your specialized vows!

3.    If you feel that there is something lacking or you want to add more than just the answers together try to think up special quotes to your favorite movies, particular song lyrics, or lines from much loved poetry. These can be ways to easily start or end your vows and continue a flowing manner.

4.    Something to keep in mind when writing your vows is, are they written in a positive tone. You do not want to start your marriage off on the wrong foot!  An example of keeping positive is saying “I will love you forever.” Vs. “I will never hate you.” Think to yourself which sentence you would rather hear your future spouse say to you?

5.    Now that you are all set to write your vows, I want you to think about the lines you are about to say. Do your vows apply to your life and the way you feel today? But more so, will they apply to your life and the way you will feel 90 years from now. Try to keep your vows timeless, you might want to refer back to them on your anniversaries or when you have a tiff in your marriage. They may also be something you decide to frame on the wall and look at every day. With that in mind you might want to make sure whatever your vows say will always be applied to your lives together.

6.    Read your vows several times before the wedding. It would also be a good idea to read them aloud to a friend or relative to insure they flow easily and others can understand your words. Reading them aloud several times in front of others or in the mirror will also help in aiding any nerves that you might have before you read them to your companion.

7.    The most important thing to remember when reading your vows is to make sure you have fun. This is your moment to say everything you feel in your heart. Make sure that your loved one knows just what they mean to you. I know that if you follow these easy steps you will succeed in writing breathtaking vows that will inspire and impress your marriage partner!

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